Tuesday, April 7, 2009

I've had a pretty big surge in visitors the past couple of days. About 4xs normal so I looked to see where these visitors are coming from. Most are Google searches but the key words aren't targeted to anything in particular, unlike Katdish and her pornographic cheese butler crowd. One of the searches really jumped out at me. "In love with my youth pastor."

I don't know who came by from that search, and quite frankly I'm not sure why this blog showed up on that search. There are a lot of things I don't know about that post but the very idea needs to be addressed. I hope I don't have to worry about that. I carefully cultivate my geek and that is a good way to ward off most crushes. I also make a point to not spend too much time with the girls in my Youth group. I much prefer to let the adult ladies focus on the female students.

I don't know much about the story behind the search, but I would say this. If someone out there is really in love with the youth pastor then they should take a step back and think about life. I'm talking about a student not a single person in the church that is the same age as the single minister. Totally different scenario there.

If you move forward on your feelings as a student for the Youth Pastor (or any pastor for that matter) then you will hurt yourself and the minister. Step back, go to college, meet lots of other people and then if you still feel the same way after allowing plenty of time and space (I'm talking about graduating college here) then you can talk to your Youth Pastor. Chances are you will have found someone closer to your age by then, but he lets say you still love the minister. Being away at college, being in your 20's, and having experienced life will remove a fair number of ethical concerns allowing your minister to talk to you. Right now the conversation will end very abruptly if your youth pastor is thinking at all.

Oh and if your youth pastor is married or involved in a serious relationship, please don't think about it any more.

Honestly I can understand the thinking here but it is only going to cause trouble for everyone. Best case is for you to go to college and find out what other people are out there for you to love without all the entanglements.